Anal sex is probably for many gay guys the limits of their sexual adventures. But not all gay guys actually have anal sex. Studies suggest that somewhere between 40 - 50% of gay men have anal sex. This is probably the act that most ill informed straight people think of most when they think of gay sex, and in many cases it repulses them even though most straight men have at one time or another thought about having anal sex with a woman.
The first thing to say about anal sex is to always use a condom and lots of water based lubricant, as it is the major risk for transmission of HIV / AIDS. The ass is a very receptive place for small unseen cuts and fissures and can easily infect someone through unsafe sexual practices. This also goes for the guy inserting his penis in the ass as well!
This section is written in three parts, the first explains your ass and why being fucked can be such an incredible sensual and mind blowing experience. The second explains how to get used to the feeling of having something in your ass, and the third is how to try having anal sex for the first time.
Your Ass and Pleasure
The male ass has something quite unique that the female does not possess and that is the prostate gland. It is a small gland a couple of centimeters inside of your ass that when massaged by either a finger or a cock can cause incredible sensations.
Many men can come just from having their prostate gland massage without even touching their own penis. The pain itself from initial anal intercourse is caused by the sphincter muscle (the ass ring) being very tight and clamping down on the finger, penis or other instrument being inserted in the ass.
Because the inside of the ass and rectum does not have the same sort of sensory nerves that you have on your skin, you can do damage by inserting sharp objects in your ass, so always cut your fingernails before playing with yourself or other people.
Never put anything in your ass that you can't get out or keep a hold on and never ever put anything breakable, alive or edible up their either!
Getting Yourself Ready For Anal Sex
Let's face it the first few times that you play with your ass you may not enjoy the experience and it may be a bit painful or even cause a bit of bleeding. But don't let that fact put you off. Gay fiction often depicts the virgin being able to easily take an 8 inch cock with no or minimal pain. In reality this is not the case and it is worth your while getting used to having something in your own ass before moving on to letting someone fuck you.
Almost all of the pain is caused by your sphincter muscle trying to contract around whatever is being inserted in your ass and this muscle spasm can be very painful.
The following outlines a general concept for playing with your ass and finding your prostate.
Once you are comfortable with playing with a finger or even a few in your ass you may want to move onto using something else to play with.
The best advice I have seen for this apart from going out and buying a small dildo is to use a smooth candle to practice inserting in your ass. As you get more and more able to accommodate a candle you may want to try larger objects. Don't ever use fruit as it can break off in your ass and cause immense pain coming out. Try finding other cock like objects and always use lots and lots of lubricant.
Once you are ready and can successfully take things in your ass it is time to try it with your partner!
A word of advice though, not everyone does actually enjoy having things in their ass, and they may never like to be fucked. If you really don't want to then don't no one is going to force you to do anything you don't want to do!
The First Time
The first time you are fucked can be an incredible experience, but can also be a little bit painful as well, especially since you may be a little (or a lot) nervous and your muscle may be quite tense.
So that's it for the anal sex first time, just keep on going until it hurts or you have both cum. Practice again and again and pretty soon you will be able to take his cock without any trouble at all and you will get more and more pleasure.
Once you are comfortable with anal sex and you are definitely enjoying yourself there are hundreds of positions and things you can try. They include:
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